What do you do to recognize and intensify your brilliance?

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't help the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you; It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone and as we let our light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same”.

Marianne Williamson spoke these magnificent words.

To me they were awe inspiring and present a philosophy for being our best and for bringing out the best in everyone around us.

Imagine if we applied this ideas to our children; perhaps they would be filled with a sense of hope and optimism and confidence; they would grow into balanced and secure individuals who would in turn make wonderful parents.

What do you do to recognize and intensify your brilliance?

I see thousands of people every year who are embarrassed to admit, let alone show their talents, and who are mortified if someone else recognizes their greatness in any area. This is not a smart way to live.

Recognition (as opposed to ‘constructive criticism’) is the number one force that motivates people to be the best they can be.  How do you recognize others and make them feel special? I remember a story about Mary Kay Ash who created one of the most successful cosmetic companies in America. One of the most crucial concepts she taught her sales team was to imagine every person they met had a banner on their foreheads declaring Make Me Feel Special.

If you recognize and appreciate your gifts, talent and endless potential, it frees you up to see the same things in others.

I was blessed with a mother who installed a belief in me that I could do anything I wanted to or be anything I wanted to be.  I knew it would take work but I knew I could do it.  What a gift.

Why not make this ‘wonderfulness theory’ (a name I just invented for Ms Williamson’s ideas) a regular general discussion in your home, at your work, with your sales or management team, with your family, with your friends?   Each person tells the others what brilliance and talent they see in the others present.  They outline aspects that are gorgeous and fabulous.

The only rules in this game is that everyone must be sincere and accept others comments graciously – without an internal voice that shouts ‘BS’ every time another compliments you; and that there is to be no sniggering or destructive muttered asides!  Play this game once a month to reinforce the beliefs.  Repetition of sincere recognition is an extremely potent growth force.

And no – you will not be creating arrogant monsters! Arrogance is usually a cover up for massive insecurity anyway.  However, you may be shining a light in the dimness of someone else’s soul and letting them see their own talents.

But first you, as Marianne Williamson points out, need to see your own wonderfulness!

If you have never thought about this before, do so now. Ignore destructive comments others have inadvertently or cruelly dumped on you and after reading Ms Williamson's quote several times spend ten minutes every day identifying your brilliance.

Remember, by doing this you’ll be giving others permission to do the same thing and you will be showing them the way.

Go on…share 1 thing about yourself that is wonderful! I dare you 🙂


Zooties, Amanda