There is no such thing as a sudden heart attack

“There is no such thing as a sudden heart attack.  It takes years of preparation!”   I read this in one of the journals to which I subscribe and thought WOW!  How appropriate for how most of us live our lives!

Most illnesses that affect us today are created by consistent poor lifestyle habits or by us ignoring our wellness needs.  What are you preparing for yourself in future years?  Very few people have some sudden  illness or disease or back pain or neck pain or ulcers. As the quote suggested, years of preparation have gone into the development of these disorders. And usually years of ignoring warning signs from our bodies!

Let's look at the child

Let's imagine that you are a child who was actually living exactly the way you are living right now,  what advice would you give them?   As you think about this lifestyle,  observe the child's (who is really you) life and emotional, mental and physical states.  How happy are they?  Fulfilled? Challenged?  Stimulated?  Appreciated? Popular? Happy? Balanced? Or are they sad? Frightened? Alone? Lacking in energy or enthusiasm?  Worried?

Let me define living because I think lots of people are actually unaware that they died some years ago!    Their spirit and zest for life died anyway.  They live ‘life' in a rote, routine, boring, depressed way;  they take everything that happens desperately seriously – especially themselves!  And they make everything a crisis or a life threatening experience.  Their life has no laughter.

Living is:

  • When we wake up with some energy and enthusiasm for the coming day.
  • When we are excited by new ideas and concepts and opportunities to learn.
  • When we  have moments of great contentment.
  • When we accept others and ourselves and enjoy differences.
  • When we take sensible risks that help us grow.
  • When we laugh lots and especially at ourselves.
  • When we see the positive aspects of others and of situations rather than focus on the negative.
  • When we take responsibility for ourselves and take control over what we can in our lives.
  • When we make an effort to see friends and maintain relationships.
  • When we have a higher purpose than making it through to the next day.
  • When we help or try to help others.
  • When we can make worthwhile contributions to the community or others less fortunate than ourselves.
  • When we are thrilled by beautiful scenery or music or poetry.
  • When we can feel emotions.
  • When our bodies feel healthy and flexible and alive.

So what advice would you give your child?

What lifestyle and emotional changes would you gently help them understand?   How would you suggest they motivate themselves to make the changes?  How could they incorporate these changes into each day with an easily manageable program?  Could you suggest a timetable that gradually incorporated a series of changes? How important is it that your ‘child' begin some of these changes soon?  What would you say was the most important priority change.

After all as Dr Hazel Shorter said “At the end of the day put everything back into your desk, lock it up, go home and forget about it.  Believe it or not, it will still be there the next morning”.  What is the most important thing to change right now?  How would the child know if the changes were working?  What benefits would they see?  What would happen to them if they continued their current lifestyle?  I'm sure that you, as a caring and loving parent, could think of lots more questions to ask this child.  And lots more help you may be able to offer.

You, as a caring and loving parent might like to help this child understand the importance of looking after themselves on a weekly basis rather then waiting until they find themselves with a major illness to make the changes.   And you might suggest they keep events in perspective – are most events really crisises?

 

Or could we view them in a different way – a more realistic way?

So maybe at the end of the day, put everything that's worrying you onto a piece of paper which you then put into a drawer, close the drawer and forget about it.  With any luck, the things you've written down will be less troublesome by the next morning.

What are you doing on a daily basis to create that sudden  illness?  And what are you doing on a daily basis to avoid that sudden  illness?  What will you do to boost your energy, vitality and wellness on a daily or weekly basis?

Zooties,

Amanda